Limiting Beliefs, making choices and Unicorns! I’ve lost my marbles, Right?! Actually, I’ve never had so much clarity!
Remember back in the days when you were younger and you didn’t need to physically see something to give a care in the world with regards to whether or not it actually existed. The thought existed in your mind and that’s all that mattered. You liked how the thought of imaginary friends, pets, Unicorns even siblings for some, made you feel!
The last moment of growth through adversity (my MGA) that I want to share is somewhat like this. No, I didn’t make up a character in my world to make me feel better, but I had a huge understanding of how my thoughts effected how I felt.
During my time of adversity I really sunk in deep with my thoughts, my limiting beliefs! I was triggered 24/7! When I started to believe that the limiting beliefs running through my mind were true, I actually started to experience panic attacks when I was alone! I’m talking full blown, sleep with the light on panic attacks here! Certainly not my favourite moments- gotta’ tell yah.
I was letting the limiting beliefs run every part of me physically, emotionally and mentally. On the outside I looked as though I was keeping everything together, but the inside was a completely different story. I was drowning in the thoughts Screen Shot 2014-06-11 at 5.14.42 PMthat had overtaken me.
I have coached on limiting beliefs for years and every tool that I had given to each one of my clients just wasn’t working. I had lost my sense of Self, and felt as though inside I was dying a slow death. I was devastated and found myself going into a depression.
Until one day, thanks to an amazing book by Byron Katie I started to analyze my thoughts. I started asking myself ‘is this thought true?’. Relief flooded in with the realization that the thoughts weren’t true. I started to recognize that if a thought didn’t make me feel good, I could choose not to believe in it, and I could choose not to accept it. I would then choose a different thought- one that actually WAS true and one that made me feel good!
When I found myself feeling the darkness come back again, I would run into a room, sit down and write out the thoughts that were running through my brain, until I came up with the limiting belief. I would then ask myself ‘what thought makes me feel better when it comes to this situation?’. Once I found that thought I would embrace it, hold the vision of it in my mind and breathe it in, until I was feeling better.
Just because we experience something negative does NOT mean that we have to feel negative thoughts and/or emotions! We get to choose in every moment what we think, feel and how we react. This was a total aha moment for me. Even in the face of complete adversity I could choose how to handle something. I was allowed to have control over my own thoughts and feelings. The situation and my ego mind didn’t get to dictate how I dealt with life- I did! And I wanted to do have as much grace and authenticity as possible.
So, if believing in Unicorns makes you feel good- do it! Heck- you don’t even have to believe that they exist. If just thinking about something magical brings a smile to your face it can’t be bad!
Choose your thoughts- you were not put on this earth to suffer. You have the free will to make a choice in every moment.
PS- if anyone has experienced a Unicorn siting I would love to hear about it!
Calgary Canada Life Coach Arianne Moore-Armstrong, founder of Path of Tranquility Coaching for Women, helps clients worldwide. Arianne is also the founder of the Ultimate Belief Breakthrough Method™