As the days pass and I start to understand more about self-acceptance in women, I see just how powerful a place it can be when one truly finds it. Which also means I can see how disempowering it is when one cannot find self-acceptance.
Most of my life, I have not had self-acceptance, and it is only in the past year that I’ve started to see the beauty that can unfold when self-acceptance is embraced. It seems that part of my calling as a coach is to fully throw myself into the darkness of life’s challenges so that I may find the light in every corner. Not easy, but oh-so-necessary!! So, these past few months have been a huge exploration into the corners (all corners) of full self-acceptance.
As I help my clients learn more about self-acceptance in their lives, I have had the pleasure and pain of enduring the subject in my own. I have seen what happens when self-acceptance is shoved into a corner to be ignored and neglected. I have also experienced the brightness and lightness of pure beauty when self-acceptance is embraced.
With this post I sat, said a prayer and asked the Universe, Angels and Guides to flood me with information that needs to go from my heart to my readers. I have experienced first-hand how lack of self-acceptance can create a disconnect and even destroy relationships. My hope behind all of my posts is to help other’s live more fully.
Today I leave my 4-part series of self-acceptance with this: I would like to share what full self-acceptance is in my world, and the different faces it can have.
The different faces of self-acceptance:
Self-acceptance is about saying hello to the parts of you that makes mistakes, fumbles and falls.
Self-acceptance is about humbly lowering your head and saying ‘I just realized something about myself that I don’t like.’ Knowing that it’s something that can be changed once you recognize it.
Self-acceptance is embracing the newness, the knowledge, and the information that it takes to grow and expand in each situation.
It’s about sitting in sadness, knowing that you’re going to be ok.
Self-acceptance is about witnessing, loving and embracing the flaws and imperfections in others while holding your hand out to them in love.
Self-acceptance is saying to another ‘ I am sorry’.
Self-acceptance is placing your hand over your heart and feeling your Soul.
It is connecting with yourself in a way that nobody can.
Self-acceptance is letting go of what no longer serves you so that the beauty of who you truly are can shine through.
It means accepting your religion, your spirituality, your quirkiness, your weirdness- and not apologizing for any of it.
Self-acceptance is saying ’shit- I’m really hurting right now.’
It’s saying ‘I’m scared.’
It’s saying to another ‘I need your help.’
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Self-acceptance is being able to say ‘My heart hurts’ and allowing yourself to feel the pain.
Self-acceptance is about standing in the moment, taking a deep breath and not running away.
Self-acceptance is being able to take someone’s hand when they offer it.
Self-acceptance is holding your hand to another as you watch them weather their storm.
Self-acceptance is realizing that you don’t need to be fixed because you’re NOT BROKEN!
It’s a soft place for others to land in their time of need, and also allowing yourself to fall into anther’s soft place when offered.
Self-acceptance is being accountable for your mistakes, and knowing that they came from a place of innocent ignorance – not malicious intent.
Self-acceptance is about saying ‘I’m sorry, can you forgive me?’
Self-acceptance is crumbling on the floor and crying your heart out.
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It’s moving into a place of vulnerability no matter how scary it may seem.
Self-acceptance is knowing that other’s ‘stuff’ isn’t about you.
It’s about playing in your own sandbox, and letting other’s play in theirs.
Self-acceptance is still loving yourself even in the midst of tragedy, sorry and grief.
It is knowing your worth even if someone walks away.
Self-acceptance is truly seeing your radiant Self shine out to the world.
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Self-acceptance is standing at your line, never wavering and saying ‘here I am- can you meet me here?’
Self-acceptance is letting go of how something else should look.
Self-acceptance is being able to say goodbye to someone or something with grace.
It’s loving all of you- each and every inch of you inside and out. It’s about saying ’this is me- and I may be flawed, but I love my imperfections. They make me -ME.’
Self-acceptance is living from a place that honours you, in each moment, with each breath.
Self-acceptance is about being present in the moment, being present in your authenticity, being present in your pain, in your happiness and having compassion for moments when you are unable to be there.
It is truly about loving your Soul- your essence, and accepting YOU for all that you are- every piece of beauty.
Self-acceptance can seem painful in moments but in the end is a thing of beauty. Is it a journey that’s never ending? I’m not 100% sure on that but I’ll keep you posted as I travel down my path of seeking my own inner tranquility.
Thank you for being a part of this LONG 4-part series. It took me while to get all of the posts out- which wasn’t my intention. I found my research took a lot longer than I had originally anticipated. 🙂 But you can’t rush a good thing can you?
Much love to you!!!
Calgary Canada Life Coach Arianne Moore-Armstrong, founder of Path of Tranquility Coaching for Women, helps clients worldwide.