When a limiting belief is present in your thoughts, there is little to no room for giving thanks. I know I’ve said this before but it bears repeating: you can’t feel something positive while thinking negative thoughts. If we choose to let the limiting beliefs run around in our minds, we aren’t able to fully engage in something as great as gratitude, or being thankful.
Screen Shot 2014-10-10 at 10.46.30 AMThis weekend is our (Canadian) Thanksgiving and all the talk right now is about turkey, mashed potatoes with gravy, and oh-SO-yummy pumpkin pie. One of the traditions that my family holds at Thanksgiving is sitting around the kitchen table, where we all take turns sharing what we’re thankful for. Even though I love this tradition it’s always been a bit difficult for me, because I’m super sappy and cry at everything! Seriously! Ask anyone who knows me and they’ll tell you that I even cry at the lamest commercials on TV: slap a dog on there and I’m a blubbering mess.
I’ve never been one that has embraced being vulnerable in front of others. I always look back and place regret on the moment in which I shed a tear, or allowed my honesty to come out to someone else. I’ve always had this limiting belief that if they saw me cry I would be viewed as weak, or sappy, or too emotional.
Many of us have limiting beliefs around being vulnerable. It can be scary to know that you’re showing up in front of someone else with your whole truth, mess and all, for them to see. Being authentically vulnerable- the kind where you allow yourself to be emotionally naked in front of someone else, can scare the s*%t out of anyone.
This past year has been filled with many tears for me, but one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned: is that when I’ve needed to be vulnerable in front of others, they embraced it! And that is exactly what I needed in that moment! They didn’t turn me away, they didn’t laugh, and they didn’t judge. They just let me be vulnerable in my mess.
If I had allowed my limiting belief to override my need for support, I wouldn’t be where I am today. And I am in a good place, where all of my relationships are stronger because of it.
Even as I’m writing this I am thinking about how thankful I am for YOU and all of my other readers. This brings tears to my eyes as I write! But that’s ok, I know that you’re on the other side of the computer/smartphone/tablet screen, warmly holding sacred space as I share my thoughts with you.
So, this thanksgiving I will allow emotion to wash over me as I sit at the table and share what I’m thankful for! I won’t let my limiting beliefs hold me back, and I will let others see me being emotionally naked, and embrace it!
Don’t ever let limiting beliefs take away what you’re thankful for. If this is not the Thanksgiving weekend for you- I still hold you in my heart and give thanks for you with so much gratitude.
Calgary Canada Life Coach Arianne Moore-Armstrong, founder of Path of Tranquility Coaching for Women, helps clients worldwide. Arianne is also the founder of the Ultimate Belief Breakthrough Method™