During times of adversity our own Self-limiting beliefs have a tendency to rise to the surface. What bad timing hey?!
Over the past couple of months I’ve had my share of challenges and my own limiting beliefs have been triggered repeatedly. Instead of feeding into the pain and the story that comes with them, I’ve allowed myself to just ‘sit’ in the Screen Shot 2014-05-21 at 12.43.30 PMdiscomfort of them. By doing this I have had some huge realizations!
I call them my ‘moments of growth through adversity’.
Even though life challenges can be extremely difficult I truly believe that they’re only happening to help you grow and become the person that you’re truly meant to be! But with each moment and each challenge you have a choice in how you greet it.
Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing some of my ‘Moments of Growth through Adversity’, in hopes that my stories can help others.
This past little while I have truly come to realize that when we allow our limiting beliefs to take over in the moments of challenge, we’re really not living up to our full potential and we really create our own suffering. And who wants that?!
So today’s “Moments of Growth through Adversity’ is going to start with one of my FAV’S!!!
It’s not about me!
What? It’s not? You mean the world doesn’t revolve around me? No- sadly it doesn’t.
In today’s society we take things way too personally! We have a tendency to take the tone of voice, the words that are said and become injured and wounded. And it’s now even worse with technology being the main source of our daily communication. We never know what someone else is thinking or going through- so when they treat us in a certain way we automatically think it’s our fault, or that we’ve done something wrong. More times than none- that’s not the case.
For example- have you ever asked someone a question and their response has been sharp and cold? If so you might have found yourself taking it personally and feel as though maybe you did something wrong to deserve such a response. Well, here’s the truth: It’s not about YOU! The reality in that moment is you have no idea what’s going on inside of that person (unless you are a world renowned psychic!).
They could be dealing with their own thoughts and beliefs. What you should focus on is what your own thoughts are in that moment. What limiting beliefs are you experiencing that make you feel it’s your fault for the other persons reaction? If you choose to believe in the false statements that are running through your mind in this scenario then it perpetuates a vicious cycle. You might find yourself snapping back at that person or perhaps someone different, and so on, and so on.
Break the cycle!
Anytime I get a response from someone that is undesirable, I just let it go (or at least I do my best). I don’t feed into any false thoughts and limiting beliefs that may come up. I choose something different!
I don’t make that moment about me. I just say to myself ‘It’s not about me.’ This allows a flood of relief to come in and fill my Soul. It allows me to shift from a place of being wounded and injured to a place of compassion. The words that float through my mind now are ‘I have no idea what’s going on with that other person but I bet they’re struggling with something right now’.
Isn’t that a better place to be? Isn’t that better than saying to yourself ‘Uh-Oh, what did I do wrong? How can I fix this. It must be because of XYZ….’ And then you suffer more because those thoughts just continue on and on.
Wouldn’t you rather be in a place of compassion? Love does not grow from places of anger, hurt and inner injury. Allow the love to flow (OMG- do I sound like a hippie?) Oh whatever- it’s true!
Next time you find yourself feeling anything negative based on a reaction from someone else just stop, take a deep breath and say to yourself ‘It’s not about me- they are dealing with their own ‘stuff’. Just try this for a while and see how it feeeeeeeels! And let me know! Leave a comment below or connect with me on Facebook www.facebook.com/artbees
Next weeks post is super yummy! It’s about eating humble pie. So don’t miss it!
Calgary Canada Life Coach Arianne Moore-Armstrong, founder of Path of Tranquility Coaching for Women, helps clients worldwide. Arianne is also the founder of the Ultimate Belief Breakthrough Method™