Deciphering NEEDS is a hot topic today with my coaching clients, and I am finding that there’s a huge limiting belief that goes along with it!
What are my needs and how do I get them fulfilled?
Well, to be frank it’s nobody’s job but your own (for the most part) to fill your own needs. In today’s society many of us tend to think that it’s someone else’s job to tend to our NEEDS. This is actually fairly false and really limiting. When you rely on someone else to fill your NEEDS you could actually be setting yourself up for disappointment. Nobody knows what you NEED more than you do. In some cases your NEEDS may include someone else, but for the most part you have to fill your own cup.
As for deciphering your own NEEDS, well, that can be challenging.
NEEDS defined:
A condition or situation in which something must be supplied in order for a certain condition to be maintained or a desired state to be achieved
Makes sense, right?
For years I have had an obsession with recipe and cookbooks of all sorts. I find huge amounts of comfort while leafing through the pages of a book that’s filled with crazy recipes, obscure ingredients, and photos that to me, is artwork at it’s best. PicMonkey Collage
Not only do I love to leaf through the pages of these little gems but I also love to cook. I am by no means a culinary Goddess, but when I allow my creative juices to flow I’ve been known to whip together some pretty yummy meals without a recipe. I just go by instinct and by what I’ve learned over the years. I know what I like, and what I don’t like, so I put that into practice when adding ingredients.
I truly love all things cooking. If I were not happily married and I had to fill out an online dating profile I would feel inclined to mention that I had a secret love affair with cooking shows! True confessions of a coach!!
I honestly had no idea how much I loved all things cooking until one day I completely stopped. I stopped looking at recipe books. I stopped going to the book store to find that little gem of a cookbook that would fill me with glee. I stopped cooking, and therefore I stopped my flow of creativity.
I was going through a difficult time, and reading a cookbook or building a meal from scratch became the last thing on my mind. I had no idea how much this would affect me.
For months I took little-to-no interest in what I was eating. I didn’t realize that I was letting go of a small part of me and what I loved to do. At the time I was searching for ways to heal through a life challenge, and had no idea that keeping my creative juices flowing through my love of culinary life could actually help the healing process.
Until slowly I started to cook again. I started to look at recipe books and read the list wondering what some of them were. I started to slowly breath again. Flavour profiles came back, textures came back and most importantly, my creative outlet came back!
My NEED was to allow my creativity to flow somehow. Learning about food, recipes, gaining inspiration from books and trying new things was my creativity, and I had let go of it.
This past weekend I found myself in a book store, and I immediately wandered into the Cooking section. As I looked at the piles of books that contained creative ideas that others had channeled onto the page I felt myself come alive! It filled my cup and it fed my Soul.
NEEDS come in different shapes and sizes. Deciphering what your NEEDS are can be challenging, but a great place to start is by knowing what feeds your Soul. In my case it was the ‘foodie’ part of my Soul that needed tending to. Ask yourself what feeds your cup? What feeds your Soul? And then – just DO IT!
Calgary Canada Life Coach Arianne Moore-Armstrong, founder of Path of Tranquility Coaching for Women, helps clients worldwide. Arianne is also the founder of the Ultimate Belief Breakthrough Method™